Emotional Healing, Relationships

Love, Orphan Spirit, & the Revolving Door Syndrome

RevolvingDoorOh, the revolving door. Going round and round.

We were created for alot of things in life, but we were not created for revolving doors.

It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m thinking of all of the times I went to the aisles of Walmart reading cards for mothers and fathers and walking out of the store in tears because my parents were no longer on the Earth. This pain was deafening and put a huge hole in my heart that I desperately wanted filled.

At the time, it did not really matter who or what filled it, I just wanted the pain to stop. Imagine being totally affirmed and validated on a regular basis and then going cold turkey into a world where you were not sure what voices to believe or who you could trust. Viewing everyone as lambs when they were cloaked with the stench of predators preying on the weak. Life has taught alot about making sure you locate yourself and what you allow into your space.

Revolving doors are for the uncommitted ones not ready to make a decision and actually not having too because they’ve positioned themselves to have God like characteristics that must be passed from this one to that one via sex, communication, or actions. Often raging inside, they have no desire to settle down, and why should they when the door is always being opened for them to come in.

If you never had the validation that you needed or are trying to numb the pain for a trauma that happened in your past, you’re a great candidate for the person who has the revolving door syndrome. Why? You have not come into the knowledge of who you are and how many know……..

yeapYeap………so take a moment and think about it. Did your doorbell ring last night? Did you open it? Did they come in and turn you out? Did you wake up alone wondering what did I just do? Why am I allowing this?…but When are they coming back?

Feeling sure, insecure, elation, disappointment at the same dang time?

Know this….. the Bible (yes, that book), says that Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy. That has never changed. It may not be that Satan is showing up at your doorstep in a red jumpsuit with  pitchfork, but you are allowing these entrances into your body, mind, and spirit, that are stripping you of the very essence from understanding your identity in Jesus Christ. It is time to settle your mind and detox from the relationship so that you can come back to your first love….Jesus Christ.

The orphan spirit does not want you to become acquainted with God’s love. It wants you to constantly go on a hunt from relationship to relationship trying to be validated by man and fill your space with temporary fillers when all you need is ONE encounter with the liquid love of Father God to break the chains of that orphan spirit and set you free from the inside out.

Today, I urge you to not pick up that phone. Don’t know what to do?

1.     OCCUPY your time with friends today. If they are deciding to  follow their revolving doors

2.      Pick up the phone at 7:30pm EST and join me for HE FIRST LOVED US!

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3. Share your time with a local women’s shelter, hospital, or food bank today.

4. Attend a bible study in your local area

5. Pick up a copy of my book, Overcoming the Orphan Spirit: Restoration for Self & Society at http://www.e-junkie.com/Trillionaire/product/489145.php

6. Make a decision to feel good about yourself 24-7 rather than making that person who is a revolving door-er feel good. They constantly pop up at your door because they are CRAVING validation and need to get it from you. I dare you to sit them down and do a John 3:16 on that real quick. Watch that response!

7. Live daily knowing that God loves you and you are his first love. Get a journal and mark this day as the day of your radical change to say no to drama and YES to Jesus. Give him all of you. He will turn your mess into a beautiful message for all to see.

Love you!

Trauma may have been yesterday, but hope does start today!

Danita

 

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Wounded Souls: Finding Purpose in the Pain

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Studies show that 100% of us have gone through something in our lifetime. The severity of the issues may not be on the scale of another’s but we all have encountered rain in our lives. The good news that the stats forgot to say is that with every test that we go through, there lies a testimony of strength to tell the world that you were made strong. 

Buildings are not the only structures that have gone through the tests of time. You too have been broken and some of you, and as a result, like many people, still lie in ruins. Just as the windows are broken and the doors broken down, it is easy to allow circular heartache to get in because the door is continuously open. Personal tragedy, trauma, grief, and loss can blindside you like the pain of being hit with a MACK truck. I have lived through this grief and trauma so I understand what it is like to pick up the pieces of lemon attempting to make lemonade.

How do you remain safe enough to be open when you’ve encountered heartbreak? How do you move forward through the issues of life when you feel like you can not go on? What do you do when you have no uumph to do anything? These are the questions that I find myself asking in various languages, because no matter where we are, no matter where we live, we all have encountered trouble in our lives and are in need of a solution to help us get out of the rut and onto the purpose that resides in our current pain. 

Wounded souls wear band aids carrying severe wounds in the most intimate spaces of themselves…the heart. Where the issues of life lie…the heart…where there is total truth. We wonder how it is so easy to give our all after we are left spiritually, mentally, and socially bankrupt by life….yet we still summon ourselves to give. There comes a time when the giving must stop and we must account for the wounded state of our own souls. We can not give what we do not have and therefore we are not in a condition to pass the peace when we are raging inside. 

Religious tradition would teach you to keep moving and not sit down when you have faced personal tragedy, yet I have seen a mother who NEVER recovered from her child’s death refuse to sit down to think about it and cry. As a result, she ended up with progressive dementia and is unable to remember anything much less her name. In my own personal life, the loss of both parents almost drove me crazy…literally, until I sat down and allowed God to help me put my parents’ memory in a safe space so that I could function on this earth. Survey yourself. What is it that you can do to stop the religious denial and deal with your stuff? Can you take a day off of work to journal the pain? Walk in the park and sit on the bench and look up to the sky? How about visit that place of pain in your prayer closet (which is wherever you choose to be) and cry out to God for authentic ” If you don’t help me, I won’t be helped” kind of cry? He is saying to you, “Yield to Me, and I will restore and renew all that has been broken!”

The point I am trying to make here is that God loves us FOREVER. He is not mad at you nor does he want us to live in a box of denial acting like we are okay and functioning at daytime but fragile as glass at night in our homes. Truth in the inward parts is the order of the day so go ahead, and be real with yourself. It is time for you to heal. 

God loves you! 

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