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Speaking Engagements

Danita Ogandaga is coming to Greensboro, NC September 15, 2012!

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Wouldn’t life be so great if we could just wish away grief, tragedy, and pain! For thousands of people, the willpower and intent to wish it away has only led to a cyclical cycle of abandonment, self-sabotaging, and chronic heartache. Addictions to prescription drugs, overeating, drugs, and other habits are at an epic high!

Drop the babies at grandma’s house and come out! I’ll be speaking on Hollow: 5 Steps to Dealing With Your *Ish!

Danita overcame personal tragedy in her own life and has utilized her professional experience as a behavioral therapist, social worker, and doctoral student to study trauma therapy and how people respond and heal from tragedy.

We hope to see you on Saturday at 9:30 for the kick-off of the No More Drama with Your Mate Annual Conference, an innovative and in-your-face experience developed by best selling author, Thierry Aworet. Darcy Ogandaga, Danita’s husband and faith strategist, will also speak at the event.

The address is 1103 Lanada Rd, Greensboro, North Carolina 27407.

God loves you. He always has. He always will! Follow Him.

Danita

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Culture & Communications

Ok…..So What Now? 4 Steps To Getting Your *ish Back

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This past weekend was filled with a bunch of phone conversations with clients who all seemed to be working on the same important issue in their lives……..self-acceptance to love God more. Each conversation was a reminder of the past issues that each one had encountered which caused them to feel as though they were stuck in a twilight zone unable to get past the present and past failures that entangled them. The failures often came in the flavor of relationships, friendships, sour business deals, job promotions, and conception. No matter what the situation was the underpinning was a question that sounded and reverbed every chamber of their ear, ” Ok, so now that I failed, what now?

This question, in my eyes, is worth the $0.79 Therapy that I send to over 5,500 people everytime I publish this blog. Check it out here. Every situation that we face in life is an opportunity to grow. In my personal life, when I think of the countless times in thirty four years that I have undertaken new ventures, it makes me want to sit down for a tall iced coffee with milk. Moving to three new cities within a four year period, marrying a man from another country and learning his culture and language, having a baby, teaching in front of students who were my professional peers, or getting in front of the crowd at Apache Cafe and spitting my poetry to the masses. Whew, just the thought of them makes me want to grab a seat as I write this post. Where did I muster the courage to conquer the whole of these things?

 Why would I want to continue searching for things to conquer after doing so many things thus far? After all, the likelihood of failing is much greater because after all, years have passed and so has my resistance to handle failure—-why would anyone want to set themselves up for failure? This question continues to linger in the heads and mindsets of most. Playing it safe in life only guarantees that the path will continue to be straight but best believe that the weather forecast may throw in some rain and other turbulence from time to time but even through that the ability to remain focused is an essential trait to have for your journey.

 One of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 28:1 declaring that, “the righteous are as bold as a lion.” When we make the decision to step out after a failed series of attempts that gives us the courage to press into our future and obtain closer results for what we are destined to become. When we allow fear to enter into our mindset and cloud our judgment, we become paralyzed, insecure, and unable to function. Fear does not show up to a pity party alone; it brings cousin Condemnation, cousin Discouragement, and cousin Guilt.

 Making the decision to try a new thing may be just what the doctor has ordered in your life. It may be that your husband left you and you find yourself stuck in your home after work afraid to go out of the house. Make a decision to accept the decision for him to leave (only you know what prompted the decision) and begin to pick up the residuals of your life while pressing into your future. You may find that rather than going home after work, taking a trip to the local coffee shop and reading your favorite book may be tremendous healing for your mind, body, and spirit. Coming to terms with the grief issue in your life is the first step in receiving your healing and ultimately fulfilling their destiny.

 1. Ask for Help– God is an awesome helper and he longs for the opportunity to provide guidance and direction to his children. After all, another one of my favorite scriptures says that before we were formed in our mother’s womb, he knew us and had an awesome planned arranged for us before the foundations of the world. How cool is that! Just talk to him, without the long drawn out words and actions this time. I find two words most helpful to get the assistance that I need. I simply say, “Daddy, help!”

2. Give It Your All– When we have encountered disappointments in the past, it is easy to enter a new venture with half the passion that we exerted in the first go round. Many of us find it easy to remain in the land of complacent, after all, with the way the world is going now, it would be easier to just sit back and enjoy that boring job we hold and fake happy the rest of our life without trying to find the footprint trail of our God-born destiny…Right? Well, no, why can’t we encounter both, the right to pursue anything and everything that we believe is leading us to the purpose that God has put inside of us. God wants us to be those bold lions that are not afraid to step out to seek the passion that has been placed within us so give it your all.

3. Do It Afraid-Baby steps eventually create giant steps and with the help of the Holy Spirit you will develop deeper understanding, wisdom, and custom revelation to handle the issues that you are confronted with. In the event that you encounter interference coming in the form of distractions, setbacks, sour deals, fractured relationships, stay focused and if you have to, as Joyce Meyer so boldly said, “Do it Afraid.” The art of being bold requires you to step outside of the confidence that we hold for ourselves and get equipped with the supernatural assistance of the Holy Spirit who knows everything. How can we possibly fail with help like that?

4. Report Identity Theft and Snatch Your *ish Back– A crime can leave you feeling violated and insecure of who holds you, your information, and the balance of the transactions you will have to come. There is nothing more personal than your *ish because that is the place where the intimate details of your life are stored. Your ‘ish is your past, present, and future function junction whether positive or negative that makes you the collective person that you are.

John 10:10 says that the thief comes to kill, steal, and destroy so we know that his visit is up to no good. The thief is an intrusion into everything that we will ever attempt to step out on, so rather than giving him the satisfaction, keep pressing into what you believe your purpose is. God knows the very hairs on your head so please know that he is concerned about everything that concerns you.

It is essential that you maintain your identity and not try to fall into the embrace of culture and society to measure the purpose that has been placed inside of you. Often times, persons that are aware of your dream may not be able to help you move forward because they are frozen with doubt and belief and unwilling to move forward into their own purpose.

That does not mean you have to stay there too so get to steppin into your purpose and go get your *ish back!

Orphan Spirit

Or·phan: Mission for the Fatherless

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Do you find yourself all dressed up waiting to become someone’s prized possession and the focus of their affection? The imagery of brides are pure and beautiful and are on display waiting to be filled with the will of their future. They are in expectation and free to walk forward and away from the shame of their past. All things have become new. Yet, for many people who have a renewed mindset, there are a million things that are attempting to prevent them from moving foward into the things that give purpose, joy, and peace. They are orphaned and feeling unworthy, stuck, muted, and disconnected from their future. They need to be sparked, affirmed, and reminded that while the world is turning, so are they.

So many people are walking around the world today in an orphaned state disconnected from the very source of life and clinging onto those things which affirm them or give them a false sense of identity. At some point in life, you realize that in the stillness of quiteness, when you are alone and without your friends, or in the shopping malls spending money, or around that circle of people snorting coke, you are and have always belonged to someone and that someone is waiting for you to come home.

Fatherless is at an all time high in the world today and there are many people who are dealing with the residual effects of not having a father figure in their lives. This in part, is preventing them from accepting the true love of the father, Daddy God and being baptized by the love of God. Abandoned, molested, broken, battered, and rejected are the descriptions that come after the names of many and their cycle continues like a broken record playing over and over.

There was  a time in my life when I had lost my worth and value not feeling connected to anyone or anything. My orphaned moment came at the point of my parents passing away. Not sure how I was going to survive, I turned to the world to affirm me and give me a sense of belonging. I was choking on a minute by minute basis from negative beliefs about myself wondering how I was gonna be able to continue my performance in the church with my parents being gone and how I was going to be received in the world; a world that I had been sheltered from as a child because I was in the church? From every angle that I could see, I was an orphan living in a state of confusion and unsure how to get connected to some source, the source that could take the pain away and move me forward from my frozen state of hurt.

What is an orphan?

1. a child who has lost both parents through death, or, less commonly, one parent.
2. a young animal that has been deserted by or has lost its mother.
3. a person or thing that is without protective affiliation, sponsorship, etc.: The committee is an orphan of the previous administration.

Remember the orphan named Annie? She was in a racheet state living in an orphanage and instantly took a leadership role against her wretched caretaker, Ms. Hannigan. Over the course of time, Annie gets adopted by Daddy Warbucks and is taken to live with him. She is exposed to a brand new life. How many of us, once we are exposed to a brand new life, mindset, perspective, and peace resort back to a former mindset wanting to re-wrap ourselves in the chains and barbed wires of our past? Constantly searching for validity in the purse or the shoes or the man to affirm us when we know those things or people have no power to do so. Their affirmation lasts but a minute and then their attention shifts to the box full of people who are standing in the line of affirmation to be stamped with a seal of approval.

God does not work like that. In fact, he states in Jeremiah 1:5 that “Before you were formed in your mother’s womb, I knew you and approved of you!” That is good news, so no matter where we go or what we do, there is nothing that we can do that will take us out of God’s love for us.

Remember the woman at the well? It is a timeless story of a woman in the Bible who has been the victim of circumstance. She was involved in a revolving door romances and connected to men who belonged to another woman. Not having an identity or connection of belonging to someone; she availed her self to become someone’s night dream- then wet dream- an experience that can promise no dreams or hopes for the future. The woman at the well, in the midst of all the handprints and guilty actions came face to face with Jesus Christ and was instantly affirmed and identified as His own. In the very moment in a twinkling of an eye, she was changed and forgiven, free from the barbed wire that confined her and released from the shame of her past. What a love.

Just as births occur daily, orphans are created daily and Daddy God is the only one that can help free you from this debilitating mindset. Let him in.