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“But a B**tch is Happy!”: Omarion and Apryl Jones

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Omarion and Apryl Jones     

I am not thirsty and I am not looking on these blogs for any tea ok.  There is so much going on in the world today that could never be compared to the relationship status of two people and their decision to call it quits, but while I am here, let me say this real quick…………can we #TalkRelationships ?

Woke up this morning to the news that America’s cutest couple, Omarion and Apryl have called it quits. Instagram and social media will never be the same seeing provocative yet cute and cuddly pictures of this couple loving on each other as they bring two beautiful children into the world.

We followed them and many gained a restored sense on #blacklove and the desire to try again was instilled all because of this couple. Clueless to the day to day, unsaid, uncued, and captured moments in the silence of themselves, we wanted to be just like them. Why? Social media creates a perception that becomes reality in the eyes of those desperately searching. Traditional human behavior teaches us to continue the status quo even when we have seen our parents swim in it and and in some cases drown.

Unless you are living under their roof, you’ll never know the real details. The Love and Hip script on television often outweighs the cultural, societal, and emotional pressure that people face. While #relationshipgoals, #ahtheysocutetho hastags are flying all around, the reality is that there is no perfect relationship and for whatever reason, even the bomb sex, having two children one year apart, a reality series contract, good God genes, or the like can not outweigh the truth:

Cows make milk for to nourish the thirsty but even cows suffer dehydration. Selah.

Maybe she had a moment of sanity, waking up from her pause thinking why did I put my life on hold to make a life with you? A common situation many women find themselves in when they situate themselves into a comfort zone, playing house with all the amenities except for the one that truly counts: Commitment

I do not want to speculate or assume, just speaking on the obvious, I would dare say that even though she may feel light in her ability to wake up, I am sure taking to social media creating a Snap Chat in front of your child to proclaim to the world that “A B**tch Happy really is translation for, ” I woke up, walked out, not sure of next step but I gotta say something.” Just my guess but I pray that their streets align, co-parenting reigns, and if this just so happens to be another lemonade session, may they profit themselves into Holy Matrimony.

Oh, and please, for the love of Jesus, get your OWN #RELATIONSHIPSGOALS!

 

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*I did not take this picture.

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Leap into a New You!

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LEAP……..that is a full word. Especially when you are trying to stay connected to something that is no longer serving you. We are taught to acquire things in this life but not really sure of what to do once those things are lost. Spirit, soul, and body, I call you to LEAP into the new and out of the old, LEAP from the pain of your failed purpose, relationships, jobs, relationships, LEAP into the fullness of what God is doing in your life. Part time faith will never yield full time benefits. Give yourself to the one who made you and all that you are trying to control. LEAP and worship the Holy One!

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How Young Adults Face Grief After School Shootings- Danita Ogandaga, GriefTalk

Just as Marysville- Pilchuck High School was preparing to begin the implementation of the share of their recently awarded $10 million grant  to address emotional behavior among high school students, on Friday, October 24, a popular freshman entered the school opening fire on the students and before killing himself, injured 4 and killed 1. Today, it was reported that one of the injured, 14-year old Gia Soriano died of gunshot wounds.

While the police are working through the investigation and policymakers are working to understand the policies associated with gun control and school administration, it must be understood that there are students, teacher, families, and friends who were left devastated by the tragedy that struck their school on Friday.

Senseless tragedies often delay grief and give way to grief. Parents and friends can not begin to process the perspective that the person that they love are gone. Rather, the focus shifts to the why in hopes of trying to understand and process the why. Knees shaking and trembling voices leave no comfort to this community who in many ways are doorsteps from the tragedies that struck this state months ago during the Oso landslide that killed 43 people in early March.

What can you make of sending your child to school with the thought that their lives may be in danger not from outside of the school walls but within and at the hands of their elected and most popular student or a son or daughter of an employee who was acting out a temper tantrum that turned deadly. It makes no sense. Grant dollars are helpful to prevent, but the seed of senseless crimes are sown privately into children on a daily basis creating rage and uncontrollable anger.

Making sense of the senselessness makes my head hurt because with all of the methods of human behavior, it is often hard to predict what causes someone to snap and take other lives with them. The holiday season have begun, and like the parents  who lost twenty children  and 6 adults on December 14, 2012 at Sandy Hook Elementary School, facing the devastating and painful milestone of holiday grief with Thanksgiving and Christmas approaching, the wounds reopen.

Community trauma affects individuals differently and must be monitored to ensure that the well-being of everyone is respected. Giving people a pill and the 5 stages of grief  no longer suffices the pain because denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance do not function in a straight line.

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Grief is violent, exhausting, liberating, and above all necessary. Attempting to grieve the loss often gets cluttered with ensuring that justice is served for the life that was taken. Once can completely overthrow the other and can often result in unresolved grief.

Children may not understand that death is not reversible. You can not promise to got to bed and have your friends, family, or parent re-appear in the morning. Young adults may grapple with the factor of “Why them and not me?”

My prayers are that in the days ahead, the community will be comforted including the family of the young man who took and wounded so many lives on last Friday. That they will find peace and the courage to grieve in the days ahead.

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