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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT: Community Holiday Grief Workshops coming soon!

 

 

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Okay, I am so excited to announce that danitaogandaga.com will be hosing a series Community Holiday Grief Workshops starting next month!

The holidays are coming but you’re not ready yet? There are so many people that are wondering how they are going to be able to make it through the next two festive- filled holidays without falling apart.

No matter what stage of grief you are in or from what (death, loss of job, foreclosure, displacement, abortion), get equipped to heal your hurts this holiday season.

Details coming!#hopestartstoday

God loves you so much!

Danita Ogandaga

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Culture & Communications, Grief & Loss, Human Behavior/Urban Environment, Uncategorized

Hope’s Promise Against Suicide

policeSuicide hurts. This post is in no way attempting to mock the life of Derek, the suicidal young man who tragically ended his life in downtown Durham, North Carolina on Tuesday, September 17, 2013. He has left others behind that loved him sincerely and are attempting to come to terms with this tragic death. There are a number of people who have reached a point of decision to leave a note to those who will remain following their suicide. Countless posts have been left on social media notifying not only their families but the masses as to their intentions and rationale for terminating their lives.

Just because we encounter God’s love in life does not exempt us from experiencing hard core pain, the pain that is penetrable (in our opinion) to our heart where we believe no recovery, no cure is necessary. The fact is will encounter trials in life and some of those trials will knock the wind out of us but we must learn to be resilient when trouble comes. This is a process, I will not sit here and try to fake the funk like it is not.

The very fact that we are living on this Earth means that we are equipped with the mechanism of hope. When we face hopeless situations, many may not have the reliance of a grandmother saying, “Baby, don’t do that because Jesus love you and Grandma loves you.”

The time to learn how to get the promises located in God’s word in the bible to the very chambers of our heart is now.  The world is growing colder by the days with rumors of wars, natural disasters, unemployment, and family conflict; yet in the middle of this, we must know that we exist to rest in the promises of God. For some, that work of resting is harder than others especially when you keep getting knocked down time after time. When we feel depressed, this is the time to get the promises of God deeply rooted in our mind so we can be sober as we attack the challenges in our lives; otherwise we will be drunken with despair and without hope.

Proverbs 12:25 is one of my favorite passages of scriptures that addresses anxiety. It says: “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word provides cheer to it.” This scripture has helped me through a very difficult time of grieving the deaths of both parents in my youth as well as a bout with drug use.

I know you may be saying, “Danita, telling someone to cheer up when they have a gun barrel at their temple is not the solution!” Well. You are right; I do agree that this stage calls for the need of some intense cognitive therapy and physical intervention to extinguish the situation.

God has given us a million solutions for dealing with the decisions that we are dealing with on this earth and at the time of someone contemplating suicide; all they need is one. Thick dark memories of their hurt and pain crowd them into a corner and they are forced to escape the pain believing it will never get better. We’ve heard it said so many times that there is no return from suicide; it is the permanent resolution that someone has made to what may be at times short lived pain.

In closing, I’d like for you to share the following scriptures that I have gathered from biblegateway.com that deal with troubled minds and hearts. Share them with your family and friends and above all, of you are feeling suicidal, tell someone so that you do not have to suffer in silence. Social media is a venue that was created to allow expression, but should not be a replacement for authentic relationships.

God loves you; He really does:

But if we hope for what is still unseen by us, we wait for it with patience and composure. Romans 8:24-25

These, the ransomed of the Lord, will go home along that road to Zion, singing the songs of everlasting joy. For them all sorrow and all sighing will be gone forever; only joy and gladness will be there. Isaiah 35:10

God, fill us with all joy and peace as we trust in you, so that we may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13

But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

No, I will not abandon you or leave you as orphans in the storm – I will come to you. John 14:18

I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart. The peace I give isn’t fragile like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.John 14:27

These things that were written in the Scriptures so long ago are to teach us patience and to encourage us so that we will look forward expectantly to the time when God will conquer sin and death. Romans 15:4

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. James 4:10

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, 2 Peter 1:2-3

The Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials. 2 Peter 2:9

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Wounded Souls: Finding Purpose in the Pain

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Studies show that 100% of us have gone through something in our lifetime. The severity of the issues may not be on the scale of another’s but we all have encountered rain in our lives. The good news that the stats forgot to say is that with every test that we go through, there lies a testimony of strength to tell the world that you were made strong. 

Buildings are not the only structures that have gone through the tests of time. You too have been broken and some of you, and as a result, like many people, still lie in ruins. Just as the windows are broken and the doors broken down, it is easy to allow circular heartache to get in because the door is continuously open. Personal tragedy, trauma, grief, and loss can blindside you like the pain of being hit with a MACK truck. I have lived through this grief and trauma so I understand what it is like to pick up the pieces of lemon attempting to make lemonade.

How do you remain safe enough to be open when you’ve encountered heartbreak? How do you move forward through the issues of life when you feel like you can not go on? What do you do when you have no uumph to do anything? These are the questions that I find myself asking in various languages, because no matter where we are, no matter where we live, we all have encountered trouble in our lives and are in need of a solution to help us get out of the rut and onto the purpose that resides in our current pain. 

Wounded souls wear band aids carrying severe wounds in the most intimate spaces of themselves…the heart. Where the issues of life lie…the heart…where there is total truth. We wonder how it is so easy to give our all after we are left spiritually, mentally, and socially bankrupt by life….yet we still summon ourselves to give. There comes a time when the giving must stop and we must account for the wounded state of our own souls. We can not give what we do not have and therefore we are not in a condition to pass the peace when we are raging inside. 

Religious tradition would teach you to keep moving and not sit down when you have faced personal tragedy, yet I have seen a mother who NEVER recovered from her child’s death refuse to sit down to think about it and cry. As a result, she ended up with progressive dementia and is unable to remember anything much less her name. In my own personal life, the loss of both parents almost drove me crazy…literally, until I sat down and allowed God to help me put my parents’ memory in a safe space so that I could function on this earth. Survey yourself. What is it that you can do to stop the religious denial and deal with your stuff? Can you take a day off of work to journal the pain? Walk in the park and sit on the bench and look up to the sky? How about visit that place of pain in your prayer closet (which is wherever you choose to be) and cry out to God for authentic ” If you don’t help me, I won’t be helped” kind of cry? He is saying to you, “Yield to Me, and I will restore and renew all that has been broken!”

The point I am trying to make here is that God loves us FOREVER. He is not mad at you nor does he want us to live in a box of denial acting like we are okay and functioning at daytime but fragile as glass at night in our homes. Truth in the inward parts is the order of the day so go ahead, and be real with yourself. It is time for you to heal. 

God loves you! 

Thanks so much to everyone that has downloaded my new book, “Overcoming the Orphan Spirit: Restoration for Self and Society“. It’s an audio book that will guide you to experiencing peace and dealing with your stuff! Order now for $7.99 by clicking this linkhttp://www.e-junkie.com/Trillionaire/product/489145.php 

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