Widow’s Tears: God Catches Them All

May 3

A day will not erase the pain of your beloved spouse but Jimmy Chouteau founded this day with the hopes of easing the pain that women go through as widows whether newly widowed or many years past.

Today is recognized as National Widow’s Day by the great people at Widow Wednesday, which is a non-profit organization created with the sole purpose of pouring back into the community located in the greater Kansas City area. What an interesting and amazing concept to set aside a Wednesday over the past five years to assist Widows and Widowers with handy or household work? This is nothing short of amazing.

As a woman who works with grieving families and individuals who are processing loss, secondary losses can become essential things that are needed but not thought much about after the death of a loved one. Household chores, organizational assistance, or lawn care are things that can sometimes be cast aside because you are simply trying to learn how to do the next natural thing in life. There are so many people in the network of care but many just remain to the side because they may not quite know how to handle the loss or how to help. I am thankful to know that there is an organization out there that can meet the needs of women who are in this space and that organization is Widow Wednesday.

I am sure the needs may be many, but find out what you can do today to support and be a blessing in the life of a widow today. If you are not able to physically assist, pick up the phone and call someone you know. Just find your way to be there.

GriefTalk and Danitaogandaga.com supports the need to be a blessing to people at their lowest point of grief. We thank God and believe God for restoration but also know that it is a process that must work itself out through communication, notification, and coordination of services. Go ahead and get started today!







Healing Wounds


June is National PTSD Awareness Month! In the height of a trauma in your life such as the loss of a job, natural disaster, death of a family member, or relocation from war as a military veteran, the after effects of the event can weigh heavily on your mind causing you to run to “fillers” to make the pain  go away.  The ability for a person to realize the need to heal is now is the first step in their process to freedom and alleviation from pain.

When trauma happens in our lives, we can respond to them by:

  • Anger
  • Denial and Avoidance tactics
  • Depression
  • Sleep
  • Rememberance & Honor
  • Self-Harm

No matter what type of method that a person chooses to utilize to make the pain of their trauma go away, the reality is that unless they are able to place that traumatic event within context and understand that life must continue with healing as a priority, they will have a difficult time finding peace.

It’s important to understand that PTSD, which was often known as a “war mental illness” affects approximately 7.8% of American people (who are said will experience PTSD at some point in their lives). There are people that are walking around the streets of your city merely existing because they have an internal pain that is so deep, they are not certain that they can trust another person to help them heal.

Whether by veterans, violence, or abuse, it is possible to develop PTSD. Following the death of both of my parents at 21 years old, I developed PTSD and was unable to express the grief associated with their death. I literally turned inward and refused to deal with the world. After going through a series of non-medicated rounds of therapy, I learned that there is hope and healing. After finding the healing and help that I needed, I opened myself up to understanding the love that God had for me and that I do not have to maintain an orphan mindset.

Since that time, I have committed myself to studying human behavior and assisting people who are dealing with root core pain due to a traumatic event and helping them refrain their perspective. Utilizing a series of sessions (private), we’ll explore what it means to locate your center and re-establish your center. We’ll talk it all out and assist you in accepting your truth while moving forward past the rooms of your personal pain.

This month, I’m offering our Hope for Today behavioral therapy packages to you for only $150 (valued at $250). Why? I am passionate about helping you come to your truth and I’d love the honor of being there when your healing surfaces ( and it will surface!).

With this package, you’ll receive:

    • Grief Foundations Pack & 45 minute initial phone session with me
    • Individual Grief and Loss Assessment
    • 3 bi-weekly group sessions (maximum group is 4 people) or single bi-weekly single sessions
    • Recording of each group meeting to replay shared tips and resources
    • Cease the Struggle Group Workbook Curriculum featuring homework after every session

    Today is a perfect day to begin your healing process. No matter where you have been in life and what has been the issue of your existence, there is a restoration plan for your life. It begins with your healing.

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