Quickies, Rough Necks, and the Orphan Heart of a Woman


IF YOU’VE EVER BEEN ABUSED (sexually, verbally, or mentally) you’ll remember when pulling hair, talking loud,calling you out of your name all meant a brother loved you. Professing rough necks over preppy dudes, bored and wanting more. When you met the love of your life and he softly caressed your hair, you asked him what was wrong BECAUSE LOVE DON’T FEEL LIKE THAT…IT SUPPOSED TO HURT. On your wedding night you wondered why a brother took his time in the art of lovemaking rather than a drive-by quickie? You even asked him, what was wrong BECAUSE LOVE DON’T FEEL LIKE THAT…IT SUPPOSED TO BE QUICK. Now the love of your life confused wondering why he’s not enough for you. Okay…seriously disturbed.

I overheard this song in the gym yesterday, bobbing to it (I’m a music lover) until the lyrics got me choked like a chicken bone in my neck. WHA–WHAT? An artist wrote a song about a vulnerable sister vomiting a lyrical love manifesto saying “I’ll just go ahead and give you my treasure, it’s just sex, making love is for whimps, I don’t love myself, so I can’t be good to you, let’s just f (bleep), forget the what-ifs (pregnancy, STD’s and AIDS), no emotions attached. WHA-What? Strong set up for sexual addictions. The most vivid example of schizophrenia I’ve ever met. Wake up & rebel against tossing your purity, & distinguish between reality and fantasy.Let God restore you. You were made for more. My heart grieves for the woman on this picture because although cartoonish, she does exist and she is out there thinking that this collection of abuse that she experiencing is her forever reality. Like the woman who was at the well, she is an awesome candidate to experience the love of Father God and be set free from the chains that bound her. #orphannomore



The Orphan Spirit


People are not born broken but something in their life set the framework for the perspective they currently have.

For many years, I felt a huge tug in my heart concerning the “orphan spirit”. For a long while, I would ask God to enlighten me and give me wisdom on the topic. One day, I remember God vividly sharing with me that the orphan spirit was a spirit, much like any demonic stronghold that we faced in life that needed to be understood and deliverance received from it.

The orphan spirit, although may generally be associated with the demonic strongholds, is also the result of being isolated from the security that you once had in people, places, or things. Connectivity and relationships are the staples of our human existence and once those things have been compromised, it is essential for the removal of security and trust to dissipate and the onset of insecurity and inferiority to increase.

It may be that you, like me, had experienced the death of both parents and relied on them for everything. Once their voice ceased, a search into the streets and religion developed into a hunger for belonging and association with someone or something that could make you feel equal to the feeling that you’d once experienced with your parents.

You may have been at a company for years and worked your way to the top, only to be demoted and given a pink slip before you could even bow to say your grace at your desk while consuming your breakfast sandwich in between calls. You may have a hallow void inside because you have given your all and your all was stolen in a matter of minutes and the sum total of your efforts and contributions to your company were stuffed into a cardboard box.

The orphan spirit is rampant in the Earth because we are in the end-times where the knowledge of God’s love is intensely being shared and rejected by many. People are exhausted and often unwilling to try God because they have been hurt by the religious rules and regulations that reduce people to a parking space or a pew warmer rather than a beloved child of God, longed- wanted- and pursued by him.

The abandonment experienced by a parent, relationship that was built on love, marriage, friendship, job, or home can hurt you to your core; yet at the core of many to ease the healing is not God but their own sense of expectation. As a result, when the people or things that we would think should take care of us cease, this causes our hearts to become hardened and we shut down and become one with the orphan spirit, promoting the agenda of the forsaking of the assembly to protect one’s self.

You and I both know that God loves us way more than that to keep us in that miserable state of non-touch and non-fellowship. He loves us and Daddy God wants us to understand the pursuit that He has and is consistently on for those He loves.

The ministry of the Holy Spirit is running rampant in the land to bring us back into the Sonship as sons and daughters of God who are on fire for God and willing to receive the lofty inheritance that He has given us as His children.

In a world longing for a place where adults are longing to return back to the womb and children racing to age themselves to the grave due to consistent patterns of hurt, abuse, and neglect, it is high time that we come back to the embrace of Daddy God.

The orphan spirit must be broken from the root where pain and hurt reside. Romans 8:15 says that we did not receive the spirit of slavery and bondage but one of sonship and adoption where we can cry out to Abba Father, our Daddy God and He will rescue us and take us to a safe place in His arms.