The Orphan Spirit


People are not born broken but something in their life set the framework for the perspective they currently have.

For many years, I felt a huge tug in my heart concerning the “orphan spirit”. For a long while, I would ask God to enlighten me and give me wisdom on the topic. One day, I remember God vividly sharing with me that the orphan spirit was a spirit, much like any demonic stronghold that we faced in life that needed to be understood and deliverance received from it.

The orphan spirit, although may generally be associated with the demonic strongholds, is also the result of being isolated from the security that you once had in people, places, or things. Connectivity and relationships are the staples of our human existence and once those things have been compromised, it is essential for the removal of security and trust to dissipate and the onset of insecurity and inferiority to increase.

It may be that you, like me, had experienced the death of both parents and relied on them for everything. Once their voice ceased, a search into the streets and religion developed into a hunger for belonging and association with someone or something that could make you feel equal to the feeling that you’d once experienced with your parents.

You may have been at a company for years and worked your way to the top, only to be demoted and given a pink slip before you could even bow to say your grace at your desk while consuming your breakfast sandwich in between calls. You may have a hallow void inside because you have given your all and your all was stolen in a matter of minutes and the sum total of your efforts and contributions to your company were stuffed into a cardboard box.

The orphan spirit is rampant in the Earth because we are in the end-times where the knowledge of God’s love is intensely being shared and rejected by many. People are exhausted and often unwilling to try God because they have been hurt by the religious rules and regulations that reduce people to a parking space or a pew warmer rather than a beloved child of God, longed- wanted- and pursued by him.

The abandonment experienced by a parent, relationship that was built on love, marriage, friendship, job, or home can hurt you to your core; yet at the core of many to ease the healing is not God but their own sense of expectation. As a result, when the people or things that we would think should take care of us cease, this causes our hearts to become hardened and we shut down and become one with the orphan spirit, promoting the agenda of the forsaking of the assembly to protect one’s self.

You and I both know that God loves us way more than that to keep us in that miserable state of non-touch and non-fellowship. He loves us and Daddy God wants us to understand the pursuit that He has and is consistently on for those He loves.

The ministry of the Holy Spirit is running rampant in the land to bring us back into the Sonship as sons and daughters of God who are on fire for God and willing to receive the lofty inheritance that He has given us as His children.

In a world longing for a place where adults are longing to return back to the womb and children racing to age themselves to the grave due to consistent patterns of hurt, abuse, and neglect, it is high time that we come back to the embrace of Daddy God.

The orphan spirit must be broken from the root where pain and hurt reside. Romans 8:15 says that we did not receive the spirit of slavery and bondage but one of sonship and adoption where we can cry out to Abba Father, our Daddy God and He will rescue us and take us to a safe place in His arms.

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The ability to love others begins with the ability to love yourself. Dealing with the painful *ish that life serves you can present challenge after challenge but you must remain connected to the love that is within yourself. Spreading love like wildflowers is great but what happens when the smoke of residual love starts shooting from your life like a car choking on fumes? You can not give someone something that you do not have.

For a long time, I walked around life tip-toeing on the issue of loving myself. I was an orphan and everything that I did was through the eyes of a hurt little girl who lost both parents. The light in my eyes turned dim and I felt as though I had to be all things to all people to make it in the world. In the process of being all things to all people, I realized that at the end of the day, I would always come up short and feel bankrupt -emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

The ones that I thought I could depend on disappointed me everytime and I learned the language of compensation, making the whole world pay for their mistake and my ultimate shortage of feeling causing me to have a conditional love for myself.

I’ll say it again…….You can not give someone what you do not have. You can’t dish out heaps of love to other when you are struggling to love yourself. Love is a word that is fickle and must endure through many situations to stand the test of time. Love has always been the foundation of what we do and who we are; but many have lost the connection to love due to the presence of pain.

Pain can cause the sensititvity of love to be hard as rocks and unable to translate into any hope for the future. Love is a powerful emotion. For you to love others, you must connect with the love you have for yourself. It has always been there, yet many people are disconnected from loving yourself due to layers of fat, addictive habits, abused relationships, words that scar, and situations that don’t have a silver lining.

Remember this:

Love is love and is so strong it can melt the hearts of the hurt with one encounter, turning the conditional into unconditional.

Think about the following question?

What parts of your authentic self did you have to hide or camouflage in your childhood?

At the heart of each of us is an authentic self that is waiting to love and be loved. Getting to the heart of the issues that consume us and stop us from moving forward in life is essential for us to keep the progression strong for loving ourselves. Getting to the heart of the issues that are consuming us is the only way to ensure that we will not slip out of like with ourselves and enter into a state of perpetual blaming and self-infliction leading to a a cycle of abuse. There is no need to hide those sections of yourself that make you who you are because they are deeply rooted and must surface for the essenceof you to be expressed.

God has placed an authentic expression in each of us. He wants us to love ourselves on purpose so that we are free to love others unconditionally.

Gheesh……..I really enjoyed writing this piece and I hope you enjoyed reading it. Please feel free to share your story of loving on purpose in the comment section below.

With love,


Orphan Spirit

Excerpt: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Orphans


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Orphans walk with one eye present to be among the living, but a constant twitching in the eye because at any moment they made be yanked back into a system of bondage that they desparately want to escape. Traveling around from here to there with a stack of luggage on their back, if not visable to the eye, it is emotional weight that constantly feeds the track of their minds with full occupants in a race, going round and round, and around. These mental demons are on a treadmill attacking confidence, belonging, identify, inheritance, healing, and a possible future of peace.

This is the orphan spirit. A behavior that manfests what we belive we are not entitled to because we are unworthy to recieve such an awesome gift from a loving God. There is no need to prove yourself to your Daddy God. He knows what you are capable of whether you are holding a gun in your hand, a bag of weed, or a can of Bud Light burping incessiantly. God loves you and He does have a plan for your life. Associate yourself with the belief that no matter what I have done, Daddy God still loves me and has a place for me in His kingdom. Desire to be there and turn away from your current activity knowing that you have been adopted.

(An excerpt from Danita Ogandaga’s upcoming series, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Orphans”  available for release June 2012).