Conferences & Webinairs

Fatherless: An Identity Crisis

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Click on the link to listen to the radio interview!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/weekly-nuggets-for-ladies/2013/05/19/heart-to-love-with-fola

Whether your father was present or not, God can heal you and redeem the time for you to be able to receive the unconditional love of Father God. One encounter can change your life.

Check out my recent interview with Maryland’s #1 Talk Radio Station, Heart to Love w/FOLA! Understand why we get an orphaned mentality and how to get free from those emotions and keep God as your center!

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Walking on Water When Nikes Just Won’t Do It!

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When was the first time you discovered what you would love to do for life? If you were given the opportunity to start tomorrow, what would you do? I remember the first time I came into an understanding of what I wanted to be. It was an autumn or maybe fall day — I was about seven years old and my daddy, who was a minister, asked me to look up some words for him. He would always write his sermons at home, after a day at our family shoe shop called, Solomon’s Shoe Shop on Bright Street in Kinston, North Carolina 28501 (shout-out)—Richard Green where Grandma Sudie lived with Pam-Pam. After identifying what each word meant, I would tell him. Thus my fascination with INFORMATION grew…

Every other day, I found myself around this same age, loving to look through my dad’s office catalog, where he would order supplies for his home office- which was the desk where he ran the family affairs. Never being asked, I would always re-arrange and arrange his desk, sort the mail into stacks, put the paper clips in order, etc. I learned the art of customer service on my daddy’s desk, having learned to take messages on the message book and put the white copy on the desk for my daddy; leaving the yellow copy in the book. From what seems like birth, my mom was a strong domestic organizer- cooking, cleaner, gardener, decorator, seamstress, and stable force in our home. She was quiet yet her few words gave way to the bold actions to get things done! She was a mover and a shaker and taught me how to love the home I lived in. I know now yall got Martha Stewart and she has become stable, but I promise somebody somewhere, is a student of Talmer Joyce Gray Solomon’s School of Domestication besides myself! Momma did not play—- she had me washing dishes and doing laundry at a young age; which has aided as a virtuous compliment to me as a wife and mother! Thanks Momma! Thus my interest in improving DOMESTICATION THROUGH ORGANIZATION…..

Growing up in a family where my father endured 55 transplants and 3 kidney operations, I also dealt with many nurses and doctors in my life who were able to assess the issues he was experiencing and diagnose a treatment via medication, physical therapy, or the like. From the age of seven, I could name all of the nine medications that my father was taking, such that, when he blacked out at the wheel on the highway, due to a diabetic coma, we ran off the road and into a ditch—- Our car was pinned in an embankment on my side, so I climbed out of the window crawling over my dad and flagged down an 18-wheeler truck, who CB’d the hospital. When the ambulance came, I was able to tell them what was wrong with my daddy. In addition, I also gave them the number to my mom’s job so she could be reached. Thus my appreciation for COMMUNICATION …..

My journey as a Professional Organizer began then. Not following the grain. I set out to understand why I had a passion for organizing and informing people. I originally thought…could I actually get paid for this? Each time, I was asked what I’d study in college, the answer was always, ” I wanna be an organizer”. I often got a smirked look but each time I thought about it… I could do this line of work without getting paid. You know what, it has worked and my passion has carried me in many directions keeping these three pillars information, organization, and communication as the catalyst in all that I do– social work professor, clinical therapist, community organizer, grant writer, certified nonprofit specialist, social administrator, wife, mother, public information manager, friend.

There are many of us who are and will remain prisoners of hope, because we are fulfilling the dreams of our fathers or mothers or peers out of obligation or what the case may be. There are times in life when we must step out with wisdom in the direction of our passion and pursue that passion with purpose. It may be that we can not identity all of the pieces to the puzzle; and that is alight, the main goal is to start visioning and seeing yourself in your greatness!

Walking on the Water… When Your Nikes Just Won’t Do It… requires time and sacrifice. While you are counting the cost…stay focused!

Orphan Spirit

Recognizing the Orphan Spirit- Danita Ogandaga

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Experiencing loss is inevitable! Our healing rests in how we approach it! There is freedom from the Orphan Spirit! I hope that you will experience additional clarity in your life for recognizing if the Orphan Spirit is an issue that explains the behavior, mindset, or “that thing” that you have been dealing with for many days, months, or years.

God came to set the captive free and that means you! He wants the very best for us and does not want to see his children absent from experiencing love, even though we may not have received that love from our natural mother or father. How we approach the things in life that we lose will make the difference in our ability to take hold of the healing that God is offering to us.

Culture and society are readily waiting to help you to identify yourself and employ you on the neverending treadmill of adopting culture that is swift and everchanging. God wants us our of the rat race and into the Kingdom of His love.

The Orphan Spirit is defined as anything in this life that has been present in your life for some time in which you find a deep attachment to or a bond that is deep seated. Once that attachment is broken, you develop a mindset in which you do not believe that life can exist without that “thing” or person in your life. The orphan spirit can be debilitating because it causes you to develop the extreme of becoming a hermit and enclosed within yourself or caught up in a cycle of people pleasing where you can not rest or enjoy life; in essence, you are always looking for something whether that be love or things to fill a void.

Recognizing the Orphan Spirit can assist us in beginning the stages of healing; it all starts with:

  • Fully recognizing or accepting that the orphan spirit has become a stronghold in your life.
  • Ask God for revelation of the truth of His word to assist you in breaking those strongholds.
  • Forgive, Forgive, Forgive and let yourself and those persons in your life who harmed you to go so you can walk into your wealthy place of freedom and serenity in receiving the unconditional love of God.
  • Open yourself up to the life that God has purposed you to live. He has called us to rest and to enjoy life to the fullest!

Doing these things will assist you in breaking free from this deafning stronghold and walking into all that God has for you!

 

Loved to love,

Danita Ogandaga, MSW

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