Walking on Water When Nikes Just Won’t Do It!


When was the first time you discovered what you would love to do for life? If you were given the opportunity to start tomorrow, what would you do? I remember the first time I came into an understanding of what I wanted to be. It was an autumn or maybe fall day — I was about seven years old and my daddy, who was a minister, asked me to look up some words for him. He would always write his sermons at home, after a day at our family shoe shop called, Solomon’s Shoe Shop on Bright Street in Kinston, North Carolina 28501 (shout-out)—Richard Green where Grandma Sudie lived with Pam-Pam. After identifying what each word meant, I would tell him. Thus my fascination with INFORMATION grew…

Every other day, I found myself around this same age, loving to look through my dad’s office catalog, where he would order supplies for his home office- which was the desk where he ran the family affairs. Never being asked, I would always re-arrange and arrange his desk, sort the mail into stacks, put the paper clips in order, etc. I learned the art of customer service on my daddy’s desk, having learned to take messages on the message book and put the white copy on the desk for my daddy; leaving the yellow copy in the book. From what seems like birth, my mom was a strong domestic organizer- cooking, cleaner, gardener, decorator, seamstress, and stable force in our home. She was quiet yet her few words gave way to the bold actions to get things done! She was a mover and a shaker and taught me how to love the home I lived in. I know now yall got Martha Stewart and she has become stable, but I promise somebody somewhere, is a student of Talmer Joyce Gray Solomon’s School of Domestication besides myself! Momma did not play—- she had me washing dishes and doing laundry at a young age; which has aided as a virtuous compliment to me as a wife and mother! Thanks Momma! Thus my interest in improving DOMESTICATION THROUGH ORGANIZATION…..

Growing up in a family where my father endured 55 transplants and 3 kidney operations, I also dealt with many nurses and doctors in my life who were able to assess the issues he was experiencing and diagnose a treatment via medication, physical therapy, or the like. From the age of seven, I could name all of the nine medications that my father was taking, such that, when he blacked out at the wheel on the highway, due to a diabetic coma, we ran off the road and into a ditch—- Our car was pinned in an embankment on my side, so I climbed out of the window crawling over my dad and flagged down an 18-wheeler truck, who CB’d the hospital. When the ambulance came, I was able to tell them what was wrong with my daddy. In addition, I also gave them the number to my mom’s job so she could be reached. Thus my appreciation for COMMUNICATION …..

My journey as a Professional Organizer began then. Not following the grain. I set out to understand why I had a passion for organizing and informing people. I originally thought…could I actually get paid for this? Each time, I was asked what I’d study in college, the answer was always, ” I wanna be an organizer”. I often got a smirked look but each time I thought about it… I could do this line of work without getting paid. You know what, it has worked and my passion has carried me in many directions keeping these three pillars information, organization, and communication as the catalyst in all that I do– social work professor, clinical therapist, community organizer, grant writer, certified nonprofit specialist, social administrator, wife, mother, public information manager, friend.

There are many of us who are and will remain prisoners of hope, because we are fulfilling the dreams of our fathers or mothers or peers out of obligation or what the case may be. There are times in life when we must step out with wisdom in the direction of our passion and pursue that passion with purpose. It may be that we can not identity all of the pieces to the puzzle; and that is alight, the main goal is to start visioning and seeing yourself in your greatness!

Walking on the Water… When Your Nikes Just Won’t Do It… requires time and sacrifice. While you are counting the cost…stay focused!


$0.79 Therapy- Stop Waiting for Pooky!


God often removes people from your life for a reason so be so careful before you try to chase them down to return! God is about purpose and sometimes in developing you, you will find that those things that used to bring you joy may be replaced with other things. This does not mean that you are better than the other person, it simply means your development and progress has been re-aligned and the two of you are not compatible.

Loss is an inevitiable process to life and as sure as we gain, we must lose, as we catch things in life ,we must release. This uncomfortable feeling can and will create heartburn and feelings of uncertainty but be assured that you are excelling into becoming your best self.

Attachments are so beautiful when they enter our lives. Like our finest accessory, attachments can be added to accentuate our life in many ways where dullness once existed. It may be that before going to Starbucks on a regular, you found yourself waking up to Quick Trip coffee, and wanted to spice up your life, or you began shopping excessively at the Gap because you wanted to rock the latest fashion and could not afford it. To the human side, maybe you were so completely in love with Pooky but Pooky did not treat you right so you took some time off from him and now he is trying to come back onto the scene.

As a result, now Pooky calls you day in and day out wanting to arrange a time to see you and wondering how you’d feel about his recent attachments which includes an addiction to people pleasing which causes him to spend his money and yours buying the jacket of the week or maybe he wants to showcase you at his work party but he has already told you he does not want to commit but wants you to just go with the flow. Let’s pause here.

No wait…..does that mean you’d be a spare this time?

So if you are in the waiting room of life and you find yoursef wondering if that love, life, person, or thing will suddenly explode onto the scene and have you all pick up where you left off, know that this may never happen and you should finally breathe and get used to your new and fresh life.

  1. Ask God to give you a new perspective and to clarify yourself in the truth of His word so that you can clearly see.
  2. Don’t rely on your feelings to make the difference in your life because feelings are fickle and they lie.
  3. Appreciate the time that you had with that thing or person and ask God to come in and fill the void of your worth and value with Himself
  4. Let God love on you and allow you to grow and rise above the hurt that you may be feeling with having loss the attachments in you life.

God loves you to pieces and He wants the very best for you. You may have a heart ache for a few minutes, but be courageous and walk into all that God has for you!

He loves you immensely,

Danita Solomon Ogandaga

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