Orphan Spirit

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It’s easy to name every excuse in the book as to why we are attracted to glitter and gold. Underneath the glitter and gold lies the truth of our situation and the pain of what we have been running from. Past hurts, old wounds, complicated grief that will not settle down in silence to heal.

Every girl dreams of the wedding day wearing that white dress, carrying the flowers, saying I do. Once the marriage takes place, you realize that marriage is the number one development system created by God and the tantrums, meltdowns, and silent trips won’t help you into becoming the person you were created to be.

Rather than looking at the glitter and gold, become still so that your heart can heal. Those things that you carry on the inside of you are magnified in marriage and holding onto distractions from the left and right won’t do. Take the time to know that a few seconds of rolling around in the bed will not fix your brokenness.

Sex does not heal.

Sex does not heal.

It makes you feel good, but sex does not heal.

It’s time to give your heart, your whole heart to your mate but you can not do that if you have not first surrendered your heart to God. He is big enough, strong enough to hold the issues of your past.

At the heart of every orphan is a desire to surrender their heart to someone.

He is waiting.

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Culture & Communications

UNLESS: A Bottle of Prescription

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Unless………this word has been affiliated with so many of the things that I have untaken in life. Unless defined simply means “except on the condition that”. So, if A does B then C. Many of the transactions that we undertake in life are gauged by the cause and effect relationship of a powerful and robust unless.

Unless…….Mackie comes home he will be kicked out of the house.

Unless…….Daddy buys me a new pair of shoes, he does not really love me.

Unless……William gets off of drugs, he will be banned from our family.

Unless……I can wear Christian Louboutin, I will not fit into the elite group at work

Unless, unless, unless. The new culture of communications. How pressure filled is that?

Adults daze around in circles wondering what their life will be life if only they had made a different decision on life and because of it can never get a firm footing in the life they are currently living because the security of  a life already lived had never sunk in.

The love of God is a love that is not built upon an unless. His love is unconditional and without pretense. The love of God says, “Even though you were addicted to drugs, I can still love you extravagantly.” It is hard for many to comprehend being given such an awesome gift to be liberated when you were once walking around like a slave in the rat race of life and trying to remain on the plantation of society and culture.

The word unless has been responsible for so much grief in life after all, we are a series of the events that we untake and products of our environments right?  Unless has become a bottle of prescriptions for many where they believe that conditions must be thrown out in order to get someone to act the way that they should but who are we to always try to direct the traffic of the pain that we are not willing to treat. People don’t want your stuff, they want to know that you care. This may be the cause for the high rate of persons cutting themselves all over the globe…to the tune of 4 million people because they may have been met with an Unless which elevated their stress absent the unconditional love to work through the drama and get to the healing.

Unless, I keep writing, will you not believe that I love to?

Stay tuned….”Unless: A Bottle of Prescription”- Coming July 2012 on www.danitaogandaga.com and the Orphan No More Podcast!

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Culture & Communications, Emotional Healing

Funked Out- Dealing With Discontentment & Eventual Depression

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Ever been a funk where if things were not going the way you absolutely confessed they would go from top to bottom and all the way around? Join the fifty million of people that assume that mindset and suddenly find themselves slipping into a state of discontentment and eventual depression. This state may have been experienced in the most subtle to the most extravagant way. Ever sat by the mailbox waiting for that acceptance letter that never came or waiting by the cell phone waiting for that person to call or went to the refrigerator and discovered that someone ate your piece of the pie? Discouragement, discontentment, and dissatisfaction are all tactics that are used by Satan to get us in a overwhelming state of emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, and mental stress. It is in these times that we must know that God is our number one lifter-upper and motivator. His sole purpose in this life is for us to know that He is fighting for us when we deal with funky things in life.

How do you deal with disappointment? I remember the times when I was not granted an academic scholarship that I had applied for in my early years of college. I had worked so hard to write the scholarship fund for criteria and guidelines. In addition, I was diligent about maintaining a 3.8 GPA and crammed so many extracurricular activities in my schedule. When I sent off my application, I just knew that I was going to get the scholarship. Three weeks later, I got a flat NO. I was beyond crushed and like me, maybe you wondered how you’d make it and what your next plan would be.

Psalm 30:5 is true that although weeping may endure for a night time, joy will come in the morning. For some, that morning may be translated into a couple of hours and for others, that joy may be delayed and come over days or months; but it will come. When I realized that I had to talk myself into getting happy again so that I could focus on the next step, the sadness and anger began to pour off of me like a wet towel. When I transferred the weight of the anger onto God and asked Him to help me deal with the disappointment, He helped me. I am so thankful the hurt did not escalate to sorrow, and eventual depression. Once this door opens, Satan has a field day and seeks to further break down our spirit with more problems.

Are you in your morning? Does it feel like the disappointment will never leave? If you find yourself in this state of mind, remember to do the following repetitiously until joy returns:

Accept Your Truth- A key factor for persons who deal with depression is the inability to face the truth of their situation and as a result, they close themselves up to forever sorrow. I am here to tell you that sorrow does not last always. The Holy Spirit was sent to bring us truth so it is okay to release your inability to handle a situation and transfer the burden over to God. Matthew 11:30 reminds us Jesus’ burdens are light and His yoke is so easy. That is great news. When my parents died, I did not know what direction that I was going. I felt like a marathon runner and just wanted to run. I wanted to run completely away from the truth that my parents were not present. Depression will cause you to remain stuck inside yourself and you’ll eventually find yourself mad at others for not wanting to hop onto your pity-party. I was there and this is not a pretty place. Once you accept your truth, whatever that may be, God can and will assist you and reveal himself to you and help you. Jesus is the awesome Helper, Comforter, Peacemaker, and Messenger.

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Reject and Rejoice- Satan is an accuser of the brethren and he seeks to allow the sorrow that we are dealing with because of our situation turn inward creating anger; which is the state of depression. The greatest GPS that we can know is that depression is not based on the situation that we find ourselves into but our response to how we are handling it. Don’t get me wrong; in some cases, persons may have a chemical imbalance where there are some barriers to logical thinking and I would definitely recommend therapy for those persons who find themselves in this state. The ultimate thing that we should do is to allow God in. It’s about relationship. Many of us have experienced rejection on many levels and it is easy to see how we could be subject to perpetual disappointment; but know that forever disappointment, God has a re-appointment. He knows the plans for you and God is not into making junk! Remain encouraged and commit to the process of renewing your mind so you can stay focused on your future rather than your past. Make a choice to be led by the Holy Spirit. Reject the stress and rejoice in being blessed. God is for you and everything is going to be alright.