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Celebrating 10 Years of Marriage Today 10/22/2015

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Happy 10 Years Married Darcy Franck Ogandaga! Today is our WEDDING ANNIVERSARY! This scripture used to make me cringe. Back then, I refused to shut up, had to make my point with tantrums, boisterous to get his attention and then my walk with Father God began. He would just sit there and look at me and smile. I learned, not from formulas, from momma, but from time with Father God how to settle my spirit and identity the fear of submission. I do not profess to be holier than thou just eager to find peace in my home and through the years, I have learned that (1) Being loud only magnifies your voice not your opinion (2) Identity the fear of submission after all, I have worked on me for a long time. Why would I want to now give myself as a project to someone else. STOP IT. You don’t have to (3) Quiet the noise of my unmarried friends who knew so much. Stop looking outward for people to solve your situations cause between Google, Blogs, and Magazines, they can do that real good (4) Dismiss the biased opinions of family & some friends that did not understand that being married to a man of African decent does not mean control. People are real good at bulking you up. Why do you think every fight on the street is surrounded by people cheering the conflict on until that ONE PERSON comes to clear the crowd? Hummmm. When you can put tradition in its proper place, YOUR CULTURE BECOME CHRIST 1st. (5) Make love often. Whether it is acts of service, dancing in the house to Earth, Wind, & Fire or time in the bedroom, floor, or whatever (come on married people), make time for love AND FINALLY, (6) Put YOUR HOPE, YOUR PEACE, YOUR JOY in Christ ALONE! Love the gift that God has blessed you with in your mate and enjoy each and every day. Bebejoufloue loves you DJ Darcy B~

I encourage you to visit my book boutique at http://www.danitaogandaga.bigcartel.com for my latest book which is selling limited copies, Miscarriage and Marriages in honor of our 10th year wedding anniversary and this month being National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Rememberance Month.

Love you all and thanks for reading!

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Grief & Loss

5 Things The Grief Experience Taught Me

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#5- FACE YOUR FEAR: Death, grief, & loss often makes people uncomfortable because it affords them an up close opportunity to face fears that they’ve had about their own experience. No matter how secure we’d like to be in our relationships, jobs, homes, and life, change is inevitable and so is loss. The only constant thing is God so put your all in Him.

#4-  DON’T SAY THAT!– Although we know it spiritually, during the time of grief, some are not ready to hear, ” They are in a better place!” or “You’re young, you can have more kids!”. Take the time to acknowledge the loss of the person they loved as they prepare for that person no longer physically being in their space or grieve the loss of the child (that child) before attempting to replace. The time to stuff, repress, and repress, must stop. Some people need to heal.

#3- It’s OK to not be OK. We believe in the word of God and know the power of confession however we must know that living in perpetual denial is . Own your shadow (grief, pain, hurt), acknowledge it to God and in that confess peace while working through your pain. Know thyself but know God!

#2- Today is NOT cancelled. As much as it may seem like a major task to get out of bed after the loss of a loved one, job, or house, get up and get moving. You will strengthen your perspective when you are moving around.

#1-  DELAYED HOPE WON’T WORK- Watch this video 

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Happy 1 Year Anniversary danitaogandaga.com!

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FLASHBACK (watch this video): 1 Year Ago today and 10,623 subscribers later, I decided to put all my life messes, academic & professional training, & biblical wisdom into practice. Danitaogandaga.com, my website was born. Since then, I have serviced clients with 1 on 1 behavior therapy, booked speaking engagements 2-26 hours away, developed products, etc for the masses to help them heal from trauma & grief. God thank you for the decision to trust!