Suicide hurts. This post is in no way attempting to mock the life of Derek, the suicidal young man who tragically ended his life in downtown Durham, North Carolina on Tuesday, September 17, 2013. He has left others behind that loved him sincerely and are attempting to come to terms with this tragic death. There are a number of people who have reached a point of decision to leave a note to those who will remain following their suicide. Countless posts have been left on social media notifying not only their families but the masses as to their intentions and rationale for terminating their lives.
Just because we encounter God’s love in life does not exempt us from experiencing hard core pain, the pain that is penetrable (in our opinion) to our heart where we believe no recovery, no cure is necessary. The fact is will encounter trials in life and some of those trials will knock the wind out of us but we must learn to be resilient when trouble comes. This is a process, I will not sit here and try to fake the funk like it is not.
The very fact that we are living on this Earth means that we are equipped with the mechanism of hope. When we face hopeless situations, many may not have the reliance of a grandmother saying, “Baby, don’t do that because Jesus love you and Grandma loves you.”
The time to learn how to get the promises located in God’s word in the bible to the very chambers of our heart is now. The world is growing colder by the days with rumors of wars, natural disasters, unemployment, and family conflict; yet in the middle of this, we must know that we exist to rest in the promises of God. For some, that work of resting is harder than others especially when you keep getting knocked down time after time. When we feel depressed, this is the time to get the promises of God deeply rooted in our mind so we can be sober as we attack the challenges in our lives; otherwise we will be drunken with despair and without hope.
Proverbs 12:25 is one of my favorite passages of scriptures that addresses anxiety. It says: “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs it down, but a good word provides cheer to it.” This scripture has helped me through a very difficult time of grieving the deaths of both parents in my youth as well as a bout with drug use.
I know you may be saying, “Danita, telling someone to cheer up when they have a gun barrel at their temple is not the solution!” Well. You are right; I do agree that this stage calls for the need of some intense cognitive therapy and physical intervention to extinguish the situation.
God has given us a million solutions for dealing with the decisions that we are dealing with on this earth and at the time of someone contemplating suicide; all they need is one. Thick dark memories of their hurt and pain crowd them into a corner and they are forced to escape the pain believing it will never get better. We’ve heard it said so many times that there is no return from suicide; it is the permanent resolution that someone has made to what may be at times short lived pain.
In closing, I’d like for you to share the following scriptures that I have gathered from biblegateway.com that deal with troubled minds and hearts. Share them with your family and friends and above all, of you are feeling suicidal, tell someone so that you do not have to suffer in silence. Social media is a venue that was created to allow expression, but should not be a replacement for authentic relationships.
God loves you; He really does:
But if we hope for what is still unseen by us, we wait for it with patience and composure. Romans 8:24-25
These, the ransomed of the Lord, will go home along that road to Zion, singing the songs of everlasting joy. For them all sorrow and all sighing will be gone forever; only joy and gladness will be there. Isaiah 35:10
God, fill us with all joy and peace as we trust in you, so that we may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
No, I will not abandon you or leave you as orphans in the storm – I will come to you. John 14:18
I am leaving you with a gift – peace of mind and heart. The peace I give isn’t fragile like the peace the world gives. So don’t be troubled or afraid.John 14:27
These things that were written in the Scriptures so long ago are to teach us patience and to encourage us so that we will look forward expectantly to the time when God will conquer sin and death. Romans 15:4
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. James 4:10
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, 2 Peter 1:2-3
The Lord knows how to rescue godly men from trials. 2 Peter 2:9
Recent reports rang throughout the world that all lives have been lost and the Malaysian Flight 370 loaded with approximately 239 passengers from all backgrounds, nationalities, and religions have perished.
Danita Ogandaga, MSW 