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$0.79 Therapy- Love on Purpose

The ability to love others begins with the ability to love yourself. Dealing with the painful *ish that life serves you can present challenge after challenge but you must remain connected to the love that is within yourself. Spreading love like wildflowers is great but what happens when the smoke of residual love starts shooting from your life like a car choking on fumes? You can not give someone something that you do not have.

For a long time, I walked around life tip-toeing on the issue of loving myself. I was an orphan and everything that I did was through the eyes of a hurt little girl who lost both parents. The light in my eyes turned dim and I felt as though I had to be all things to all people to make it in the world. In the process of being all things to all people, I realized that at the end of the day, I would always come up short and feel bankrupt -emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

The ones that I thought I could depend on disappointed me everytime and I learned the language of compensation, making the whole world pay for their mistake and my ultimate shortage of feeling causing me to have a conditional love for myself.

I’ll say it again…….You can not give someone what you do not have. You can’t dish out heaps of love to other when you are struggling to love yourself. Love is a word that is fickle and must endure through many situations to stand the test of time. Love has always been the foundation of what we do and who we are; but many have lost the connection to love due to the presence of pain.

Pain can cause the sensititvity of love to be hard as rocks and unable to translate into any hope for the future. Love is a powerful emotion. For you to love others, you must connect with the love you have for yourself. It has always been there, yet many people are disconnected from loving yourself due to layers of fat, addictive habits, abused relationships, words that scar, and situations that don’t have a silver lining.

Remember this:

Love is love and is so strong it can melt the hearts of the hurt with one encounter, turning the conditional into unconditional.

Think about the following question?

What parts of your authentic self did you have to hide or camouflage in your childhood?

At the heart of each of us is an authentic self that is waiting to love and be loved. Getting to the heart of the issues that consume us and stop us from moving forward in life is essential for us to keep the progression strong for loving ourselves. Getting to the heart of the issues that are consuming us is the only way to ensure that we will not slip out of like with ourselves and enter into a state of perpetual blaming and self-infliction leading to a a cycle of abuse. There is no need to hide those sections of yourself that make you who you are because they are deeply rooted and must surface for the essenceof you to be expressed.

God has placed an authentic expression in each of us. He wants us to love ourselves on purpose so that we are free to love others unconditionally.

Gheesh……..I really enjoyed writing this piece and I hope you enjoyed reading it. Please feel free to share your story of loving on purpose in the comment section below.

With love,

Danita

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Preacher Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself by Danita Ogandaga

Peace Everyone! I recently spoke on the topic “Preachers Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself on Saturday, June 9, 2012, at the Youth Revival located at the United Gospel Outreach Church in Kinston, North Carolina. What a powerful event and an awesome time we had. It is a wonderful thing when you can see people be drawn from the darkness to the light!

Although you may be a Preacher’s Kid (aka PK) like me or not, we are all called to share the good news of Jesus Christ. Social media and technology were created for us to be a light in this dark world. Religion and relationship with God leaves you conflicted wondering how you will go about fulfilling the will of God for your life, also known as your purpose, but God has sent the Holy Spirit to be that guide and helper.

When the loudest voice that you once had in your life to encourage you and move you along on a positive path cease from speaking, what will you do? Will you get sucked up in the expression of culture or will you cling to God and be a Preacher’s Kid?

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What People are Saying About “Preacher Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself!”

“Woman of God thank you for being a willing vessel. Thank you!”Dena Bruton, Kinston, North Carolina

“Wow I feel like I am in a trance, I just finished listening to one of my favorite preachers Danita S ogandaga. She preached a  message that is so power packed and has such a prolific flow of information & revelation knowledge, I must go in for round two. I’m so in love with the uniqueness of your ministry gift, of how you articulate the word of god with such style, slimplicity, and passion!!!! ♥ ya so much.”- Andrea Garner, La Mesa, California

“This message spoke to my heart, encouraging me to !. know God for myself (relation not religion) use my own mind & not follow the worlds “set trends, not follow” 2. continue to P.U.S.H towards, and continue to pursue those dreams, desires and goals that God birth into my heart & not to settle for less. Don’t quit just because people say you can’t do it.”LaShanda Nichole Dillahunt

 “Certain People think that they are Buddy Buddy with God and without them the Ministry will stop: Some Ministry beleive and teach that only Men should grace and address the pulpit: But my Bible tells me that Our God is not a respector of person; and in saying that I know God can use who He wants, where He wants, when He wants to get His message across to His People”- Quinton Greeen, New Jersey

Danita, God really used you as a vessel tonight to convey his message!!!!!!!! Just like you mentioned it: It was not about your hairstyle, your nail polish, your clothes but the word of God!!!!!!!! Thank you for ministering to us!!!!! and Thank you Jesus for your awsome Daughter, Danita Solomom Ogandaga!!!!!!– Matsy Kombila, Fayetteville, North Carolina

 “I hope someone records your sermon! I knw its going to be off the hook!”- Karisa McDaniel, Facebook

“The Lord used her!” Alisha Pearson, Kinston, North Carolina

With love,

Danita Ogandaga

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UNLESS: A Bottle of Prescription

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Unless………this word has been affiliated with so many of the things that I have untaken in life. Unless defined simply means “except on the condition that”. So, if A does B then C. Many of the transactions that we undertake in life are gauged by the cause and effect relationship of a powerful and robust unless.

Unless…….Mackie comes home he will be kicked out of the house.

Unless…….Daddy buys me a new pair of shoes, he does not really love me.

Unless……William gets off of drugs, he will be banned from our family.

Unless……I can wear Christian Louboutin, I will not fit into the elite group at work

Unless, unless, unless. The new culture of communications. How pressure filled is that?

Adults daze around in circles wondering what their life will be life if only they had made a different decision on life and because of it can never get a firm footing in the life they are currently living because the security of  a life already lived had never sunk in.

The love of God is a love that is not built upon an unless. His love is unconditional and without pretense. The love of God says, “Even though you were addicted to drugs, I can still love you extravagantly.” It is hard for many to comprehend being given such an awesome gift to be liberated when you were once walking around like a slave in the rat race of life and trying to remain on the plantation of society and culture.

The word unless has been responsible for so much grief in life after all, we are a series of the events that we untake and products of our environments right?  Unless has become a bottle of prescriptions for many where they believe that conditions must be thrown out in order to get someone to act the way that they should but who are we to always try to direct the traffic of the pain that we are not willing to treat. People don’t want your stuff, they want to know that you care. This may be the cause for the high rate of persons cutting themselves all over the globe…to the tune of 4 million people because they may have been met with an Unless which elevated their stress absent the unconditional love to work through the drama and get to the healing.

Unless, I keep writing, will you not believe that I love to?

Stay tuned….”Unless: A Bottle of Prescription”- Coming July 2012 on www.danitaogandaga.com and the Orphan No More Podcast!

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