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The ability to love others begins with the ability to love yourself. Dealing with the painful *ish that life serves you can present challenge after challenge but you must remain connected to the love that is within yourself. Spreading love like wildflowers is great but what happens when the smoke of residual love starts shooting from your life like a car choking on fumes? You can not give someone something that you do not have.

For a long time, I walked around life tip-toeing on the issue of loving myself. I was an orphan and everything that I did was through the eyes of a hurt little girl who lost both parents. The light in my eyes turned dim and I felt as though I had to be all things to all people to make it in the world. In the process of being all things to all people, I realized that at the end of the day, I would always come up short and feel bankrupt -emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

The ones that I thought I could depend on disappointed me everytime and I learned the language of compensation, making the whole world pay for their mistake and my ultimate shortage of feeling causing me to have a conditional love for myself.

I’ll say it again…….You can not give someone what you do not have. You can’t dish out heaps of love to other when you are struggling to love yourself. Love is a word that is fickle and must endure through many situations to stand the test of time. Love has always been the foundation of what we do and who we are; but many have lost the connection to love due to the presence of pain.

Pain can cause the sensititvity of love to be hard as rocks and unable to translate into any hope for the future. Love is a powerful emotion. For you to love others, you must connect with the love you have for yourself. It has always been there, yet many people are disconnected from loving yourself due to layers of fat, addictive habits, abused relationships, words that scar, and situations that don’t have a silver lining.

Remember this:

Love is love and is so strong it can melt the hearts of the hurt with one encounter, turning the conditional into unconditional.

Think about the following question?

What parts of your authentic self did you have to hide or camouflage in your childhood?

At the heart of each of us is an authentic self that is waiting to love and be loved. Getting to the heart of the issues that consume us and stop us from moving forward in life is essential for us to keep the progression strong for loving ourselves. Getting to the heart of the issues that are consuming us is the only way to ensure that we will not slip out of like with ourselves and enter into a state of perpetual blaming and self-infliction leading to a a cycle of abuse. There is no need to hide those sections of yourself that make you who you are because they are deeply rooted and must surface for the essenceof you to be expressed.

God has placed an authentic expression in each of us. He wants us to love ourselves on purpose so that we are free to love others unconditionally.

Gheesh……..I really enjoyed writing this piece and I hope you enjoyed reading it. Please feel free to share your story of loving on purpose in the comment section below.

With love,

Danita

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Walking on Water When Nikes Just Won’t Do It!

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When was the first time you discovered what you would love to do for life? If you were given the opportunity to start tomorrow, what would you do? I remember the first time I came into an understanding of what I wanted to be. It was an autumn or maybe fall day — I was about seven years old and my daddy, who was a minister, asked me to look up some words for him. He would always write his sermons at home, after a day at our family shoe shop called, Solomon’s Shoe Shop on Bright Street in Kinston, North Carolina 28501 (shout-out)—Richard Green where Grandma Sudie lived with Pam-Pam. After identifying what each word meant, I would tell him. Thus my fascination with INFORMATION grew…

Every other day, I found myself around this same age, loving to look through my dad’s office catalog, where he would order supplies for his home office- which was the desk where he ran the family affairs. Never being asked, I would always re-arrange and arrange his desk, sort the mail into stacks, put the paper clips in order, etc. I learned the art of customer service on my daddy’s desk, having learned to take messages on the message book and put the white copy on the desk for my daddy; leaving the yellow copy in the book. From what seems like birth, my mom was a strong domestic organizer- cooking, cleaner, gardener, decorator, seamstress, and stable force in our home. She was quiet yet her few words gave way to the bold actions to get things done! She was a mover and a shaker and taught me how to love the home I lived in. I know now yall got Martha Stewart and she has become stable, but I promise somebody somewhere, is a student of Talmer Joyce Gray Solomon’s School of Domestication besides myself! Momma did not play—- she had me washing dishes and doing laundry at a young age; which has aided as a virtuous compliment to me as a wife and mother! Thanks Momma! Thus my interest in improving DOMESTICATION THROUGH ORGANIZATION…..

Growing up in a family where my father endured 55 transplants and 3 kidney operations, I also dealt with many nurses and doctors in my life who were able to assess the issues he was experiencing and diagnose a treatment via medication, physical therapy, or the like. From the age of seven, I could name all of the nine medications that my father was taking, such that, when he blacked out at the wheel on the highway, due to a diabetic coma, we ran off the road and into a ditch—- Our car was pinned in an embankment on my side, so I climbed out of the window crawling over my dad and flagged down an 18-wheeler truck, who CB’d the hospital. When the ambulance came, I was able to tell them what was wrong with my daddy. In addition, I also gave them the number to my mom’s job so she could be reached. Thus my appreciation for COMMUNICATION …..

My journey as a Professional Organizer began then. Not following the grain. I set out to understand why I had a passion for organizing and informing people. I originally thought…could I actually get paid for this? Each time, I was asked what I’d study in college, the answer was always, ” I wanna be an organizer”. I often got a smirked look but each time I thought about it… I could do this line of work without getting paid. You know what, it has worked and my passion has carried me in many directions keeping these three pillars information, organization, and communication as the catalyst in all that I do– social work professor, clinical therapist, community organizer, grant writer, certified nonprofit specialist, social administrator, wife, mother, public information manager, friend.

There are many of us who are and will remain prisoners of hope, because we are fulfilling the dreams of our fathers or mothers or peers out of obligation or what the case may be. There are times in life when we must step out with wisdom in the direction of our passion and pursue that passion with purpose. It may be that we can not identity all of the pieces to the puzzle; and that is alight, the main goal is to start visioning and seeing yourself in your greatness!

Walking on the Water… When Your Nikes Just Won’t Do It… requires time and sacrifice. While you are counting the cost…stay focused!

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Preacher Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself by Danita Ogandaga

Peace Everyone! I recently spoke on the topic “Preachers Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself on Saturday, June 9, 2012, at the Youth Revival located at the United Gospel Outreach Church in Kinston, North Carolina. What a powerful event and an awesome time we had. It is a wonderful thing when you can see people be drawn from the darkness to the light!

Although you may be a Preacher’s Kid (aka PK) like me or not, we are all called to share the good news of Jesus Christ. Social media and technology were created for us to be a light in this dark world. Religion and relationship with God leaves you conflicted wondering how you will go about fulfilling the will of God for your life, also known as your purpose, but God has sent the Holy Spirit to be that guide and helper.

When the loudest voice that you once had in your life to encourage you and move you along on a positive path cease from speaking, what will you do? Will you get sucked up in the expression of culture or will you cling to God and be a Preacher’s Kid?

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What People are Saying About “Preacher Kids: The Power of Expression and Knowing God for Yourself!”

“Woman of God thank you for being a willing vessel. Thank you!”Dena Bruton, Kinston, North Carolina

“Wow I feel like I am in a trance, I just finished listening to one of my favorite preachers Danita S ogandaga. She preached a  message that is so power packed and has such a prolific flow of information & revelation knowledge, I must go in for round two. I’m so in love with the uniqueness of your ministry gift, of how you articulate the word of god with such style, slimplicity, and passion!!!! ♥ ya so much.”- Andrea Garner, La Mesa, California

“This message spoke to my heart, encouraging me to !. know God for myself (relation not religion) use my own mind & not follow the worlds “set trends, not follow” 2. continue to P.U.S.H towards, and continue to pursue those dreams, desires and goals that God birth into my heart & not to settle for less. Don’t quit just because people say you can’t do it.”LaShanda Nichole Dillahunt

 “Certain People think that they are Buddy Buddy with God and without them the Ministry will stop: Some Ministry beleive and teach that only Men should grace and address the pulpit: But my Bible tells me that Our God is not a respector of person; and in saying that I know God can use who He wants, where He wants, when He wants to get His message across to His People”- Quinton Greeen, New Jersey

Danita, God really used you as a vessel tonight to convey his message!!!!!!!! Just like you mentioned it: It was not about your hairstyle, your nail polish, your clothes but the word of God!!!!!!!! Thank you for ministering to us!!!!! and Thank you Jesus for your awsome Daughter, Danita Solomom Ogandaga!!!!!!– Matsy Kombila, Fayetteville, North Carolina

 “I hope someone records your sermon! I knw its going to be off the hook!”- Karisa McDaniel, Facebook

“The Lord used her!” Alisha Pearson, Kinston, North Carolina

With love,

Danita Ogandaga